Was she just born that way?

My bride, the Lovely Mrs. Gekko, works with a number of gays in her profession (she's an RN). We've had lots of conversations with her friends about their lifestyles and inevitably someone drops the "we were just born that way" bomb into the conversation.

Here are my questions about that.

1) If you are a man and you find other men attractive, why does that make you prone to like Barbra Streisand, Cher, Lady Gaga and Judy Garland?

2) Why are so many gays concentrated in the hospitality, entertainment and medical fields? If it's simply a matter of being attracted to men are you born into the modeling field as well?

3) I would think that if you are a lesbian, you would be attracted to women with hyper feminine qualities; not women who look like men. What's up with that?

4) Are bisexuals "born that way"?

5) What the hell is it that has gay men hooking up in parks, public restrooms and roadside rests? What's wrong with bars? I can't even go into a park on a nice day to read a paper without being labeled as gay or a child molester.

6) If we really have no control over our sexuality, why do we make unforced sex with minors against the law? Aren't child molesters just "born that way".

7) My wife and I are privy to three people who "came out" only to be involved in a heterosexual relationship right afterwards. Are those people just born that way? 

8) Are "pansexuals" just born that way? What the hell is a "pansexual" you may ask.

Democrat Mary Gonzalez was the first lesbian to openly serve in the Texas House of Representatives, and now she’s becoming the first “pansexual,” too.

“During the campaign if I had identified as pansexual, I would have overwhelmed everyone…Now that I’m out of the campaign, I’m completely much more able to define it,” she explained.

So what, exactly, is a “pansexual”?  And how is it different from “bisexual”?

The Huffington Post summarizes:

Though many might describe Gonzalez’s orientation as bisexual, pansexuals don’t believe in a “gender binary,” and hence can be attracted to all gender identities.
Gonzalez specified to the Voice that she doesn’t believe in a gender binary because “gender identity isn’t the defining part of my attraction,” and that she never fully embraced the term “lesbian.” Although she came out as bisexual at age 21, Gonzalez said she has also dated transgender and “gender-queer” people, in addition to women.
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Gonzalez… continued: “As I started to recognize the gender spectrum and dated along the gender spectrum, I was searching for words that connected to that reality, for words that embraced the spectrum. At the time I didn’t feel as if the term bisexual was encompassing of a gender spectrum that I was dating and attracted to.“  [Emphasis added]

As Gonzalez defines it, apparently a “pansexual” is attracted to men, women, men who identify as women, women who identify as men, and everything in between, because they don’t recognize “gender binaries.”

So instead of LGBT we now have LGBTPGQ, How do we incorporate gender binaries into the mix?

Seriously, are we all going to regret the days of "Don't ask, Don't tell"? If not, let me tell you about my fetishes some time. Let's start with the "Cincinnati Steamer" (seriously, I just heard that term for the first time a couple of weeks ago. Unbelievable)

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